Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Advice please

Ok, I need a little advise from any moms (or dads, but I don’t think I have any dad readers yet and if I do why are you not commenting? Go ahead, don’t be shy! I love comments!) who have been through this before. Bud turns 5 in July and I have to start getting his party organized. I’m thinking of doing it at our local park because they have a pavilion and it’s next to the swing sets (it’s not at my house and there is a playground, need I say more?).

My need for advice comes from the fact that I don’t know what to do about Bud’s classmates. Do I need to invite all of his classmates (keep in mind he goes to two Pre-K programs)? I’ll definitely be inviting a few of them because I know their mom’s from t-ball and just being around town but do I have to invite ALL of the kids? I don’t even know who he’s friends with (I’m super involved, can’t you tell!) and I can’t exactly ask him because he’s a fair weather friend. He’s not friends with one kid right now because Bud wanted cold sand and the other kid wanted warm sand. (I don’t even know what this means but is apparently a big enough deal to end a friendship.)

As you may be able to tell, I really don’t want to invite all of his classmates and I’m basically looking for people to tell me that it’s totally ok to play favorites or that I’d better suck it up and invite everyone otherwise I’ll go down in bad mommy history (I’m already heading there I don’t need a violent shove by not having the proper etiquette).

So what say you faithful readers?


  1. I would most definitely NOT invite tons of people I don't know just because they happen to be in the same class as my child. I would want to avoid the whole awkward "I don't know you, but I'll pretend to be happy you came to a total strangers house" situations. I never take my child to parties she gets invited to if I don't know the child, or the parents.

    It's definitely okay to play favorites and only invite people you actually know.

  2. Ok Dad here. How exciting, your first Dad comment. Ok so I say just invite the kids whose moms you are friendly with. Don't invite all of 'em. To much hassle. Plus at this age he'll enjoy just a few kids. Good luck

  3. Oh and I think it's totally cool if you don't invite all of them. If your looking for justification :)

  4. Hey! I'm a Dad! Wait, let me check... yup, my wallet is empty and that is the defining characteristic of a dad.

    I say invite them all! Boys may not throw a fit about such things, but they do notice. And boys are much easier to care for if you have them organized into teams and playing water balloon baseball with badmitton (spelling?) racquets.

    Boys don't require many supplies to have a good time.

  5. Okay...here is my two-cents. I say plan one day to have the party...wait for it...but have his little school party in the morning at the park, and his big school party in the afternoon at the park. This way you practice with a smaller bunch of kids, you buy double everything (plan once, play twice), and Bud has all his classmates there in two small groups! Call me crazy, but I think I might be on to something here :)

    ps...super jealous you have boy followers...I definitely don't!

  6. Salad says invite all or none. If u invite them all ur covered and alot of them will not show